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...and I like a girl who is more or less very shy too.
I feel like a fool here asking for advice on the internets, but since my friends are either a) can't relate b) in the same boat or c) don't care ; I figured I'd lament to my e-friends of 2 years.
And I wanted to say that despite my usual sarcastic and/or stupid posts this is SERIOUS FUCKING BUSINESS. Yes I am capable of such.
The following is basically me unloading on the internet. I, in case you can't tell, don't vent often so here is my stress relief.
Preface: Last year she sat next to me in one of my classes for half the year, we hit it off pretty well (well in my eyes it seemed it...) but it never really reached a true friendship because I'm such a chump. Well that and during that time I was still in the "don't care" category. Our desks got moved, relegating me to only talk to her occasionally over the remainder of the year. Only then did I realize how much I enjoyed her company. (before you say "you're an idiot why didn't you get up and talk to her" remember I am shy to the point of retardation when it comes to girls). Lame and immature on my part probably, whatever, I can't help who I am.
Summer comes and goes, she is in the back of my mind, but I don't worry much about it. I eventually lose the infatuation. I mean, that is what it is basically, I know her but at the end of the day it's a effin crush just like it always has been.
Nao: It's senior year and I'm one of those pathetic losers that has never had a girl. Funny thing is I see myself as someone who you would think would have a girlfriend. I hate to sound like...I dunno...full of myself...but I mean I have no enemies, I get along with everyone, I'm generally regarded as a fairly funny guy...more or less...and I'm smart (that's the one thing I can confidently say). My social life is pretty solid with the exception of...the girls. Or lack thereof. I only have a few friends who are girls, and none of them who are actually good friends...more like "solid acquaintances", people you'd talk to a lot in school but not a lot outside.
I digress...sorry. ANYWAYS. Senior year. First day. She walks in the class, and we exchange a greeting and she asks what period I have a class. I tell her it's fifth (even though it's not) and she looks disappointed. At this point I'm not really interested. I mean I can only focus on getting through the first day, much less womenz. Weeks pass and we are in two classes and we have small conversations here and there but it's always across the classroom or something or one of my friends ends up asking me something and it's cut short. It's in these short exchanges that I actually find that I still have that crush on her. Unfortunately (?) for me it's come back with a vengeance and has manifested itself strongly. I feel like an idiot because it's so fucking 6th grade but that's all I know. I'm very reserved at school when around girls, and this is amplified if this "crush" thing ends up in my mind. Funny thing is I'm not TOO reserved otherwise, and if I'm out of school I find it much much easier to talk with girls too (situation lending). : / So yea there are signs that she likes me. Or so I think. Comments like "I like your shirt", the fact that when ever I look at her I often find her looking at me, and the I am often the first person she talks to when she walks in the room (even though the conversation is still small talk). I dunno, like I said I am bad at anything involving women but I would say its safe to say there is a little bit of interest at least... Hey it's better than her ignoring me outright like a lot of my previous endeavours...
And that's about it.
To be honest you really really did not have to read that. I needed to put it out on writing. Can't keep all that bottled up all the time like I always do.
TLDR: I just need advice as a very shy guy trying to get a fairly shy girl. And I need all the help I can get, on every aspect.
Well i bet you know what most people are gonna say, just ask her out and if something happens then it happens. You could do that. If i were you id probably try talking to her, get to be more of a friend. If you are sure there is certain chemistry, just ask her to a movie, its really no big deal. The worst thing you could do is let it go like you did before, because then you'll suffer with regret. suffering isn't cool. its time to grow up, suck it in, and try doing something. ___ Side Note: Whadu is a (proven) Faggot.
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Cursed Level 39: Paper Luigi Posts: 13420Timestamp: Wed Sep 24, 08 4:52 PM
I can say I'm in the same boat with you, mang. All I can say is maybe ask her if she's free on the weekend, or whatever. Go out for a bite, or something. Be casual. From what I read (which was all of it) it seems you've been limited to small talk. Why not go outside school (which is where you said you were more comfortable around girls), just the two of you (or one or two mutual friends) and get to seriously know each other? Hard to do, yes. Especially when you're shy to the point of retardation.
tl;dr: The biggest risk yields the biggest reward. ___
Well i bet you know what most people are gonna say, just ask her out and if something happens then it happens. You could do that. If i were you id probably try talking to her, get to be more of a friend. If you are sure there is certain chemistry, just ask her to a movie, its really no big deal. The worst thing you could do is let it go like you did before, because then you'll suffer with regret. suffering isn't cool. its time to grow up, suck it in, and try doing something.
Yea I've been going over my head a million times on how it'll play out. I have to say my confidence is rising...slowly. I'm trying to make conversation whenever I can, but it's been weak at best.
And with that bold statement, I couldn't agree more. If only it was that easy. :D
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I can say I'm in the same boat with you, mang. All I can say is maybe ask her if she's free on the weekend, or whatever. Go out for a bite, or something. Be casual. From what I read (which was all of it) it seems you've been limited to small talk. Why not go outside school (which is where you said you were more comfortable around girls), just the two of you (or one or two mutual friends) and get to seriously know each other? Hard to do, yes. Especially when you're shy to the point of retardation.
tl;dr: The biggest risk yields the biggest reward.
Ya'll are so wise.
I've been thinking about asking her to lunch one of these days. That's pretty casual, and just being in my car I think I can relax A LOT more. Not sure how I'm going to go about it. I've ran it through a million times, from downright asking to a subtle request.
I'm starting to believe that the root of my problem is that I think too much...overanalyzing every terrible outcome.
Thanks for the confidence boosters. :P I'll have to try to put this to use. Though it'd be really great if a girl would post here, so I could get some inside info. :P
Like Cursed said I would try and hang out with her more outside of school, and get to know each other better. You taking her out to lunch would be a great way to start that. ___
it seems you already know your weakness. You're thinking about it too much, over analyzing and going over every possible outcome. A casual lunch doesn't have the pressure of a "date". Take it slow, but take it. ___ Side Note: Whadu is a (proven) Faggot.
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I know, it's a little weird reading about it, even I had the link sitting around in my bookmarks for a few days (a friend gave it to me) 'till I finally caved and decided to read it. ___
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